More About Convex Bags and Support Garments

This morning I saw the support garments lady at the hospital. I took in with me the wrap and pants I’d got from SupportX online some time ago, and she shook her head at them and said that neither was giving any real support at all, which I was pretty much aware of. I told her that the wrap kept rolling up at the back and was not wide enough top to bottom.

She suggested a proper belt with a Velcro fixing, and got several out for me to try, but again the back rolled up, and she said they were not really suitable for me, and that I’d be better with support briefs. These garments are all specifically designed for people with stomas.

We tried a pair of these and they were much better. They are made of very nice firm smooth stretch fabric and she said they would offer sufficient support to help prevent a hernia developing. Hernias are very difficult to treat and the operation is not always successful, and prevention is very much better than cure, and even though the support garments are expensive, they are a lot less of a drain on the NHS budget than a hernia operation.

She has ordered one pair for me to start with, and after a week or two, if they prove satisfactory, I can phone the number she has given me and they will order 2 more pairs. I am allowed 3 during one year, and she doesn’t want to waste my prescriptions by giving me 3 all at once, in case they aren’t right for me, but I think they will be fine.

On the subject of convex bags, after I spoke to the Coloplast rep at the open day back in June, I was told that I would be contacted once the new Sensura Mio convex bags were launched, and I would be sent some samples to try. I was told this would happen in the autumn. Not having heard anything, I phoned in October and was told they would be launched in November. I then heard that earlier this month someone on the stoma forum on Inspire had already got her samples, so I phoned again, and was told they would phone me, which they didn’t.

I phoned again last Friday and was told that someone would definitely phone me on Monday (yesterday) – they need to speak to you so they can fill in a form, getting information from you about the size of your stoma etc. so that they can send the correct samples out.

At 4 p.m. yesterday they still hadn’t phoned, so I rang them again and I was told that no way would I have been phoned yesterday because each request took 24-48 hours to process! She wanted to know who I’d spoken to, and of course I couldn’t remember his name… She could find no evidence that I had phoned at all! Honestly, I do get fed up with these firms that pass you from pillar to post and nobody will take any responsibility, and all they can say is, “They shouldn’t have told you that…” as if it is my fault!! I said I’d been waiting a long time, and had contacted them repeatedly, and I was anxious to get my samples asap as I wanted to be able to order them with my next order from my supplier if they were suitable, and I’d been deliberately running down my supplies. I told her yet again which days I’d be in and when I wouldn’t be available this week (I have 3 hospital appointments 3 days running) and she said she’d try and push for a phone call this morning (Tuesday) before we left for the hospital for my support garments appointment. Of course, there was no phone call.

She told me I might not hear before Friday! I told her that was a whole week on from when I’d first phoned them asking for samples. I really do think this is pretty shabby and I told her so.

I wouldn’t be a bit surprised if they phoned tomorrow when we are out. I wouldn’t put it past them…

I know they are inundated with requests for samples of these new bags, but I have been on the list to receive them since June, so surely I can hardly be considered to be at the end of the queue. I am wondering if I’m ever going to get them!!

Tomorrow I am going in to the day surgery unit so that my surgeon can examine my rectal stump under general anaesthetic. When I saw his registrar at the end of October he couldn’t see much because it was full of muck and pus, and it was rather uncomfortable having the proctoscope in for any length of time, so he said he would discuss it with Mr. Pullan who would probably want me in for a fuller investigation. I have to be there for 8 a.m. having had no breakfast. I should be home by lunch time, depending on how things go, and how soon I am over the anaesthetic and able to leave.

On Thursday I have my CT scan, and on 27th, bloods to be taken at the Ricky Grant (chemo) unit. On 30th November I am seeing the oncologist after she’s received the results of the scan and bloods, and I am hoping for the cancer all-clear! I counted up all my appointments this year since my diagnosis in mid-January, and up to and including the oncology appointment at the end of this month, the total is 49!!

Stoma Clinic Appoinment–Bag Advice and Support Garments

Recently I noticed that where the convex flange of my Coloplast bags sticks to my abdomen, it has been making the skin a bit red, and now that the moat has disappeared from around Kermit, I wondered whether perhaps I still needed to use convex bags, or whether I could return to the flat ones, so I contacted the stoma clinic and they arranged for me to come in and see someone after I had seen the surgeon at the hospital this morning about my rectal mucous discharge (see my Cancer Diary entry today for details of that appointment), as it was in the same department.

I saw Nita this morning, and she had a look, and said that my skin continued to look very clean and healthy, and that all was well. She said that Kermit does not protrude very much – we laughed when we reminisced how freaked out I’d been before my surgery, by the stoma clinic’s DVD with the young lady with the red willy on her tummy and how I’d asked Mr. Pullan NOT to give me one of those!! – but sometimes a bit of protrusion is no bad thing! She said that I should continue with the convex bags for now, but there may come a time when I could return to the flat ones. I do not mind either way, as I am happy with the Coloplast soft convex bags, and am awaiting the arrival of the new Mio convex bags – I just wanted to be sure they were still happy with how things were, so I was reassured. The main thing is to avoid the possibility of leaks, and if the stoma doesn’t have a very long spout, the convex bag does make it protrude more, so that the output is sure to go into the bag, and not seep out under the flange and start irritating the skin.

She said I had done the right thing, coming in to ask. If the skin redness gets worse, then it might be time to look again, but probably there wouldn’t be likely to be any change during the next two or three months.

When she removed the bag, she remarked on the banana flanges I was using and asked if they were the Trio ones, which I confirmed was the case, and how much I liked them. They are their Silex Flange Extenders.

I was also able to report that I was getting on very well with Patient Choice, my supplier, and how businesslike they were, emailing me as to when to expect my parcel to be delivered, etc. She was pleased to hear that, because she said that not all companies were that businesslike.

We also spoke about support underwear. I mentioned to Nita that I had been experiencing a bit of pain around the stoma and in my abdomen lower down, but that the surgeon had reassured me that there was no evidence of a hernia. People with stomas are much more at risk of developing hernias because their abdominal wall muscles have been compromised by the cutting of an opening, and support garments are a good idea to prevent hernias developing. The surgeon said the pain I had been experiencing could just be the development of some scar tissue – there may be some adhesions, especially as I have also had a hysterectomy (20 years ago) and there’s been a lot going on in that area, but it was nothing to worry about. Nita could see that the rather large SupportX pants I had on were doing very little in the way of support; even if they were smaller, the fabric was not particularly firm or stretchy.

A few weeks after I received the two pairs I’d ordered from SupportX, they sent me another two, which have remained in the drawer still in their original wrapping, so I took them in today and gave them to Nita to put in her cupboard in case anyone else wanted to try them.

She said we could do better than this, and suggested I came in to see the lady who does the girdle fitting, so I have an appointment on Tuesday 17th November in the afternoon.

Nita said that they were getting very good reports of the support underwear now available in regular clothing shops such as Marks and Spencer’s, Matalan and PriMark, and they were not expensive. She said in the meantime I could try those, so after my appointments at the hospital we went off and I got a couple of pairs of pants (they only had two in my size, but they will keep me going for now).

You can see that there is a lace panel on the front. The fabric the pants are made of feels very firm and stretchy, and I think they will offer a lot more support than the SupportX ones.

I told her that the SupportX wraps I’d been wearing at night were a perfect pain because they are not deep enough and keep rolling up at the back.

In SupportX’s picture it looks nice and deep but on me it seems about 2/3 the depth!

She said the girdle fitting lady should be able to provide me with something better, and in the meantime I told her I’d ordered some cheap pregnancy body bands from Ebay which I thought I would try.

These look a lot more generous! They were very cheap, so I hope they will be stretchy and supportive enough. They are supposed to support one’s back as well as one’s abdominal muscles, but we shall see.

Another advantage of these garments (and my main motivation for waning them originally) is that they hold the stoma bag in place so that it doesn’t flop about – this was something that used to bother me quite a lot at night. During the day, they help maintain a smoother profile so that the bag doesn’t show so much through one’s clothes.

Obviously I have had to pay for the belly bands and the Matalan pants myself (the were not too expensive either - £6 per pair), and I bought two pairs, intending to wear them over my regular underwear as I have done with the SupportX pants), but anything recommended by the girdle-fitting lady or the stoma nurse, manufactured specifically for stoma care, should be available on prescription. The products designed specifically for stoma care use often have a separate pocket to contain the stoma bag, keeping it out of direct contact with the skin, which obviously normal support garments available in regular shops do not.

This whole thing continues to be a learning curve! An interesting one, though. I have found the whole process both fascinating and educational!

Part of the problem is having to shop online for certain products, and not being able to handle them to see how stretchy and firm they are, and not being able to try them on. The advice of the stoma nurses is extremely helpful, though, and I am sure the appointment with the girdle lady will be informative and useful.

I offered my services as a volunteer to help anyone wanting to speak to someone who has a stoma, and she was happy to put me on their list. We had a chat about what it is like for people in the early days – I reminisced about my tears on the phone and in the clinic, when I felt totally unable to cope, and wanting to phone the hospital lab and ask for my colon back (minus the cancer!) so that it could be sewn back in and I could resume my life as a butt crapper!

There are times when one thinks one will never get to grips with the bag, as one’s body changes shape and the stoma shrinks, and you get leaks and skin irritation. All being well, and in the absence of other complications such as prolapses or hernias, suddenly things slot into place and one starts managing like a pro, and it just becomes part of one’s daily routine. I said how very comforting and reassuring it had been during those difficult times, to phone up (usually in a bit of a state!) to be told to come in and they’d fit me in, and they always managed to sort me out, calmly and efficiently, putting my fears to rest. She said that this was the bulk of their work, helping people out in the early days and teaching them how to manage, so it’s all in a day’s work to them! They are the unsung heroes of the colo-rectal world!

I hope anyone reading this, who is struggling through the early days, will be encouraged and reassured. It really is not that bad once you get used to it, and always remember that the stoma nurse is your best friend!

Pelican Meeting

Today my hubby took me out which was lovely. I tend to get a bit stir crazy stuck in the house all the time, although I do love being at home, and I get a lot of contact with the outside world via the internet.

We had had a letter in the post a while back from Pelican Healthcare (who supply stoma products) saying they would be visiting our area and a small open afternoon had been arranged in a local hotel suite. This hotel, the Passage House, just outside Newton Abbot, is just next to the Passage House Inn where we have often eaten out, so I suggested we went out for a nice meal first, and then went to the meeting, and this we did. They have a carvery every day and we both opted for that - quite delicious!

Not very many people attended the meeting unfortunately, but the lady from Pelican remembered me from the open day in Newton Abbot a few months ago and was interested to hear how I was getting on. I had a long chat with the couple who run the local branch of the IA (used to be Ileostomy Assoiation but now the Ileostomy and Internal Pouch Support Group) which I decided to join today - I'd thought about it before and didn't see much point as I was getting a lot of help and support from the Inspire forum and from the stoma team at the hospital, but they have meetings several times a year with different speakers, and it's an opportunity to meet up with other ostomates and their spouses.

Light refreshments were laid on, and I had some good conversations with several people there, as well as being able to pick the brains of the Pelican representative about one or two things. I came away with a few samples and other bits and pieces, including the inevitable free pens and notebooks! Always useful!

I was keen to try their barrier wipes because I’ve been experiencing some problems with the Independence ones I’ve been using – sometimes the bag doesn’t want to stick on quite as well as it might, but the Pelican rep agreed with me that it might be that it wasn’t quite dry before applying the bag. I couldn’t remember if I’d picked up any Pelican barrier wipes at the open day a few months ago, and if I did, I didn’t put them on my comparison charts which was a nuisance. Anyway I shall give them a try, and if I like them, I may order them instead, next time I’m putting an order in with Patient Choice, my supplier.

I was also quite interested in their wraps, which the rep said were not as supportive as the SupportX ones I have got, but they did seem a bit longer in the body, which might prevent them rolling up over my bum at night! I think I need to do a bit more research into this before I order any more. I am entitled to six pairs of paints (ooops! I mean PANTS – that’s the artist in me speaking lol!) and four wraps per year on NHS prescription. I have four pairs of the pants which I think are really a size too big, and they are not very supportive, although they do keep the bag a bit flatter than without.

The IA is holding a local meeting in Ottery St. Mary at the beginning of December, with a visiting speaker from the National Trust, speaking about the renovation work at Castle Drogo which I know both my hubby and I will be interested in, so we shall be going to that. Lunch is laid on, and there will be the opportunity for conversation with fellow ostomates. The meetings are apparently quite well attended.

I am rather tired now after a quite busy day, but it was worth it. Always nice to get out of the house, and while the weather looked distinctly unpromising first thing (raining) and we decided to leave the buggy at home, it did clear up and was quite sunny but rather windy, so we didn't get wet.

I enjoy these meetings attended by fellow ostomates, and as time goes on, I am hoping to get to know them all a bit better, and make some new friends. A local support group is always a good thing, I think, and who knows – in time, I may be able to offer support and help to others!

Stoma Pants and Wraps

Today, at long last, my prescription underwear arrived. I think it says something about my life at the moment that I got really excited – I know, I know, I should get out more…

They are made by SupportX and I got them on prescription, free of charge. I ordered two of each to start with. Your yearly allowance is six pairs of pants and three wraps, but I’ve got enough to be going on with for now, because the pants will not be worn against my skin but over my normal pants, so I can have “one on, one in the wash,” as they say.

I have to tell you, these are NOT the most glamorous underwear you’ve ever seen by a long shot. The pants are enormous! I couldn’t stop laughing, especially when my hubby said they were sweet! lol lol!!

Are you ready for this?

The pants are deliberately made really high waisted so that the top doesn’t interfere with the stoma, and everything is adequately covered up.

Turned inside out, there is a separate pouch affair that runs across the front, attached at the sides, and you wear this closest to yourself, and slip the bag into the pouch, so that it is sandwiched between the pouch and the outer layer of the pants, keeping it away from your skin. It supports it and stops that dragging feeling when the bag is filling, and distributes the contents a bit so that bulges are less likely to show on the outside.

You an see that there are two holes at the bottom. These are for drainable ostomy bags so that you can, in theory, empty the bag without removing the pants. However, I am not doing this because I am afraid of making a mess!

I got the wraps to wear at night. They are similar to the pants, but more stretchy and tight. Again, they support the bag and keep it flat against you. I find that in bed, the bag does tend to flop about a bit and it sometimes wakes me up, and with the wrap, this should no longer happen.

Inside out, the wraps also have an inner layer so that the bag is sandwiched between two layers of fabric and held away from your skin. The hole is there to push the bag through – it doesn’t look very big but the opening is very stretchy, and there’s no problem getting the bag through it.

What did I tell you? Not the sort of thing you see in Vogue lol! I think I am getting old… Before I went into hospital I got some new bras and was horrified that they had THREE hooks at the back – I told my hubby they reminded me of the “ladies’ foundation garments” that my mum used to wear in the 1950s and he said that sounded like concrete blocks! He wasn’t far wrong.

I think it’s rather funny that I have multi-coloured hair and wear quite funky clothes, and nobody (except you lot of course) will know what horrors lie beneath!

Hope this has given you a good laugh. It has me. But at least I know that my “medical appliance” (doesn’t THAT sound awful – but it seems to go with the pants lol!) will be held secure and will be more comfortable, and it should help with the prevention of leaks, too.

Oh, the joys of being a Gutless Bag Lady… Whoever would have thought Shoshi would come to THIS…